Saturday, December 28, 2013

Driving Stresses

How many of you have taken the time to teach someone how to drive? Go ahead. Raise your hands? I'm on child #2 and the experience is completely different than the first. 

First, child #1 is male and there is just some difference in how men and women approach driving. My personal opinion is men are more relaxed, more confident behind the wheel and feel like they own the road. Women approach it from a defensive point of view and are reactive. 

Second, child #2 is a perfectionist at heart and is never satisfied with mediocrity. She would rather do nothing perfectly than anything and slightly fail. That makes for an interesting, and very slow experience on the road. 

Letting go and allowing your child to take their own life into their hands and your's as well is not an easy position to allow yourself to be in. Also putting tens of thousands of dollars of just your own investment in their control is likewise unsettling. Knowing one small mistake can mean the difference between a life of misery and joy is a dubious pinnacle to teeter upon yet we all go through it. 

Today we went driving for the second time, leaving a somewhat chaotic first experience with crazy teenage drivers in a high school parking lot behind us. No crashes into curbs. No intense moments of stress and disappointment flashing across the instructor's face while trying to hide the inner fear of a major fiery inferno eminent in the foreseeable future. 

The session was a success and my daughter's stress headache was greatly minimized this time around. Now if I can only convince child #1 to agree to ride with is to seminary while child #2 drives we'll be set.  

Any suggestions on how best to teach, motivate or otherwise skillfully coach a teenager to drive responsibly?
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