Wednesday, January 28, 2009

Commitments and Interests May Cloud Judgement?

It's interesting what we value and what we rationalize based on commitments and interests. The comment thread from yesterday's post on Video Games is an example, in my opinion, of how we value what is of interest and rationalize based on the level of commitment to that interest.

Example:

I'm a soccer coach and previously spent upwards of 24 to 30 per week on practices, games and administration on our association. For a working class guy that doesn't coach for a living some would call this excessive. In my perspective this time was not detracting from my ability to support my family. The time spent in this interest, with the exception of a once a month board meeting, was with my kids, for whom I coach. As long as I did not require my wife to drive the kids all over for practices, week day experiences were kept within the bounds of reason. With well checked feedback from my wife and careful counsel as to which tournaments and off season events we should participate in I was able to balance my desire to fulfill my interest in the sport and keep harmony in the home. The key there is counseling with my wife as there were times when excessive or compulsive attitude swayed me to do too much and my wife's level of tolerance/acceptance tipped the boiling point and we had "discussions." My commitment to God never wavered and a Sunday worship and Sabbath Day was never compromised.

Priorities and circumstances change. As I'm working for a new company and my hours have increased dramatically, my ability to commit to the same rigorous practice routine has been compromised. I'll be personally working my teams less in order to maintain a proper balance at work. Were I to obsess over my interest at the same level as before my ability to accomplish my work duties would suffer. As it stands, proper feedback from my wife has been essential and it's clear that a reduced practice schedule will be healthier for all concerned.

As with any interest, it's easy to let the level of our commitment to that interest cloud our judgment. Find the right balance is essential to a healthy lifestyle. Having a loving family, especially a supportive and openly communicative spouse enables clarity. And as always, prayerful consideration and feedback through holy communion with the Spirit of the Lord will ratify, not rationalize, your level of commitment.
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